In this episode Dita and Dajana talk about the very controversial subject of dating as an Albanian woman and all the roadblocks women face in this aspect such as: shame, guilt, unapproved/secret relationships, reputation, judgment, emotional repression, heartbreak and more. They tap into their own experiences dating growing up; how it was presented to them at a young age and how it affects them and their dating life/experiences today. They highlight the negative and positive aspects of being refrained or deterred from dating before most Albanian families would approve their daughter to do so. They present fairly recent evidence from an article that solidifies the stigma and stereotypes of dating in Albanian culture and share their own opinions of it. This episode is not meant to persuade an individual family's rules to allow their daughters to openly date and instead encourages you to ponder on this question: What is your INTENTION behind not allowing your daughter to openly date? Is it to protect her and not have her be distracted from her goals as an adolescent and to fully develop as an adult before involving herself with someone romantically, or is it the fear of your family's reputation being tarnished by the actions of your daughter (such as being sexually active at a young age) that society would shame your “family name” for, making her ineligible to be perceived as worthy enough to marry?
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